Relationships

“There is no such thing as a baby”

-Winnicott, paediatrician and psychoanalyst (1958)

The baby does not exist or develop alone but only within its relationships with others. Our need for others has its roots in our earliest experiences.

Some people seek help from me because they are having trouble in their relationships, with partners, with their children, at work or with friends. You may be having problems finding or keeping a relationship. Or be struggling to be intimate, have concerns about sexual difficulties or your sexuality. You may find that you are repeating the same patterns in your relationships over and over again. Our relationships with others affect our emotional, psychological and physical wellbeing.

The person in therapy “will find his or her own self and will be able to exist and feel real. Feeling real is more than existing, it is finding a way to exist as oneself, and to relate to objects (others) as oneself, and to have a self into which to retreat for relaxation.”

-Winnicott (1971)

I have over 20 years’ experience of working with people with emotional and psychological difficulties, working in the NHS and in private practice. I have worked with people with a wide range of problems, including depression, anxiety, stress, compulsive thoughts, childhood trauma, abuse, self-harm, problems around sex or sexuality, fears, loss and bereavement. The purpose of therapy is not to offer advice, try to save relationships or judge them. The aim is to help you to find you a way of being and a great sense of fulfiment.

You may find the BBC webpage about psychotherapy and counselling informative-

www.bbc.co.uk/health/emotional_health/…/therapy_psych.shtml